It seems like you are trying many thing at once and it will be advisable that you should try thing one by one. You will get along with N9 as your friend in some time.

Try N9 Qtweak http://talk.maemo.org/showthread.php?t=80600
as it have many tweaks at one place

Then start fiddling your N9 a bit more and you will be home.

Cheers