I can respect that, definitely, I understand the community has its quandaries too. But as I've said, the opportunity cost of not providing spoonfeeding is the loss of many non-geeky customers. It's the choice of the community, as mentioned earlier - either spoonfeed and allow user base to grow as rapidly as possible, even though each user may not be that independent (and I understand that this can be a burden for the community), or ensure that each and every user is responsible and thus putting off many new users, but in the exchange get a more cohesive community.

You need to choose between the two contesting demands, and decide which is important for you, growth in user base (which drove platforms like iPhone to its success today), or a more tightly-knit community that is slightly more exclusive with more barriers to entry.

Ultimately, your choice.