I don't think the N900 is too thick, although thinner would be desirable. My current phone is 23mm thick, and my pockets are ready to burst when I'm carrying both my phone, N800, and occasionly a camera. The N900 will free up a lot of space, while providing more convience then I get from carring three seperate devices.
As for women wanting the N900. My wife carries the N95 and cannot wait to upgrade to the thinner N900. She wants her some Maemo.
By comparing with my current phone (SE K750i) I think that the thickness of the N900 will not be a problem for me (the SE is 20.5 mm thick!). What I'm more worried about are the other dimensions, since I usually carry my phone in my pocket and I'm not really a big fan of huge pants pockets
On the plus side, no need to carry both the N800 and the cell phone, which is quite good!
I can almost bet that the next device (supposed to be out in 1Q2010 with Fremantle onboard, according to some sources) is going to be a thin version of N900 sans the keyboard. It just feels like the most logical answer to the question "If you had got <1 year to release two devices sharing the same software, what form factors would you choose?"
Imo for a smartphone it is too thick and too heavy. For an internet tablet, weight and thickness would be ok.
Of course on the other hand the screen seems to be approprately sized for a smarphone, but too small for an internet tables.
Apparently Nokia couldn't decide whether the N900 shall be a smartphone or an internet tablet, so they made it a little bit of both.
Which is the reason, why I definitely won't buy it, but wait instead for the next meamo devices. Hopefully these will either omit the keyboard and be much more lightweight and thinner to be a usable smartphone. Or add a reasonably sized screen to be an internet tablet.
Both would be ok for me - for different usecases.