The applet only appears when you have the camera door open. Try this. Then click on your battery icon (after closing the camera app), and you should see it there.
good to know but now i have a serious problem after a restart of my n900 i cant get any applet or the menue anymore ... i need help!! how can i get the progmanager without menue to deinstall the flashlite or the 3g/2g app?